About me

My name is Alice. I’m a thirty-something former scientist currently staying at home with my two children. But I’m not your typical stay-at-home mom. I would much rather talk about time travel paradoxes than dress my kids in cute outfits or cook anything.

INTP is my Myers-Briggs personality type, and it stands for Introverted, iNtuitive, Thinking, Perceiving. If you know about Myers-Briggs types and are familiar with INTPs, then you already know more about me than the vast majority of people I’ve ever known. INTPs make up about 1-3% of the population and are the rarest type among women. I am rational, analytical, nonconformist, detached, quiet, independent, imaginative, socially awkward, and hard to define.

I’m married to an INTJ and we have a 6-year-old daughter, AJ, and a 3-year-old son, Buddy. We’ve moved around the country frequently and currently live in Alaska, which is home to us. I started this blog in 2013 as a place where I could share my thoughts about anything and everything, viewed through the lens of being an INTP and being a mom. It’s kind of an unusual combination.

Some of my interests are science, history, classical arts, and being in the wilderness. In my hypothetical free time, I like to discuss theories with my husband, read, hike, kayak, visit museums, see classical concerts, and learn new things that have no practical applications.

I’ve written two previous blogs. Leaving Eden, which I wrote in 2007-2008, followed my experience of becoming an atheist during my senior year at a Christian college. Peaceful Atheist, which I wrote mostly during 2008-2010, was where I chronicled my life after college, moving to Alaska, and developing my voice and identity as an atheist and as an INTP.

You can email me at intpmom(at)gmail.com, and follow me on Instagram @intpmom.

5 thoughts on “About me

  1. I’m an INTP mom and just found your blog today through a google search. Your posts about looking for friends have resonated with me, as that is probably a universal struggle for INTP types and has been one of mine as well. We sound similar, although I’m not a scientist. My areas of interest have been sociology, psychology, anthropology, and theology (a mixed bag that my awesome grad school administrator allowed me to piece together to make a major for myself tailored to my interests– and it was a longer course of study, but very fun). Anyhow, all this to say, I’ve found some helpful things for me in making friends and also had the privilege of growing up with an INTP best friend. She actually lives in Phoenix, AZ too.

    You may do well with another INTP, if you can find one. That’s been my best success, although finding someone with a shared interest definitely helps. For me that can be simply motherhood, since my interest in psychology & anthropology in particular make children and motherhood a never-ending source of fascination for me (there are so many potential interacting facets to analyze– cultural behaviors, expectations of motherhood & childhood, individual personalities, the effect of various life factors on children’s development, etc., etc.).

    I don’t know if these “softer” sciences are of interest to you, but if they are, you might find that other mothers consider your conversations about these subject interesting and bonding, and will value your insight.

    Enjoying your blog!
    Christina from SC

  2. Dear Alice,
    I discovered your blog yesterday, and admittedly stayed up far too late devouring entry after entry. For those of us who grew up in a family of sensors, it’s easy to come to the (fallacious) conclusion that we must be crazy, unfeeling, or just abnormal beyond the acceptable limits. It fills me with hope knowing there are others out there like me, especially others who have experienced the same, rare, yet visceral encounters with love and other sensations we might otherwise dismiss as silly or impractical. Reading your account of your first face-to-face meeting with your future husband brought me to tears–I have never read a description of love at first (or third) sight that so closely matched my personal experience. Thank you for your words.

    A College INTP

  3. Hello there! I just wanted to ask as a female INTP to all my fellow female INTPs…..do you ever feel (due to your inferior Fe) that you are not maternal enough? I personally do not like children and don’t find the idea of raising children appealing. Parenting has become (in my opinion) a social obligation that you meet once you are in a long term relationship. I feel as though it restricts my freedom in some ways along with the fact that parenting is an extroverted activity. Lastly, I don’t think I have the compassion it takes to be a mother. I would like to know more thoughts about this and if anyone feels this way. Do let me know if you ever felt this and what made you change your perspective

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